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Saturday, April 30

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Okay tell me if I’m missing something here
But doesn’t the baby bush’s latest social security idea pretty much under-mine everything American is about..

That the poorest amongst us will reap the benefits but middle class folks will lose big time..

It pretty much goes back to what I’ve said for a long time, that more and more this country is turning into a country that supports its poor (somewhat) and rewards its rich but ignores its middle class.

As a middle class babe from a middle class background, I resent working my ass off my whole life to have the baby bush cut my benefits..

The poor in this country deserve all the help they can get don’t get me wrong, but don’t take away the incentive of the middle class while you’re at it.

So now, under the baby bush’s “progressive indexation” the low-income worker will be getting benefits up to almost half their wages, but folks who make $36,500 will only get about 26 percent.

Honey first of all, here in NYC anyone who makes $36,500 is practically homeless, not middle class.

Folks who managed to break 90k will only get 12 percent.

I get that the baby bush the champion of the rich is now trying to anoint himself as the robin hood for the poor but honey…he’s taking away a key motivation for the average joe to work hard all his or her life and then think that come retirement time, his or her hard work is gonna pay off in some liveable social security income.

I do think this pretty much 86’s the whole original idea of social security. This was after all, not supposed to be another version or welfare but a payback for what you work hard your whole life to put into it.

I know, on my end, more and more, I’m realizing that all that money that’s’ come out of my checks will NOT be finding its way back to me.

How bout an alternative here?
Something a little more American…a little more even grounded?

Raise taxes if you have to but leave our retirement plans alone.

That’s where I’m at

Go ahead educate me..
But do so nicely

And
With some amount of respect.. please

Wednesday, April 27

ptown

hey kids
sorry not to post sooner
im out in ptown
where i just taped 4 more radio shows!
the show is a big hit FYI
and im pretty much booked
to do season two starting next year
as well
so its super exciting
i got to finally hear my show
live in ptown for the first time
and it was great experience i can tell you
and then the great lizita organized a little soirree
of aunt joan, erna and herself to listen to the tape with me
so it was nice
thanks lizita for making me feel like a star

anyway
im taking a little break
from bitching about the baby bush
cheney
and the pope
to catch up on my artistic side

ill be back soon in nyc manyana
plenty of time
to get back into my \
nyc warrior bitch from hell mode
the way you like me best no?
hmm
toodles

Saturday, April 23

popa nazi

had a long chat with a pal of mine about the new pope
she was upset because as a woman of german decent
she felt that the pope was taking a lot of crap for being german
and making a mistake at age 16
and that at age 16 it wasn't exactly easy to stand up against the nazis
in germany and him being a nazi youth or whatever the hell he was
shouldn't be held against him

well i guess my feeling on this is
that the catholic church does not have a great history when it comes to how they did NOT help the jews against the nazis
and how they apologized oh what was it 50 years too late?

so picking a pope with a lil itty bit of a nazi past
isn't exactly a wise decision

my other feeling is
you know if you're gonna call someone the pope
and make him the religious leader of catholics around the world
then
shouldn't he be
the kind of guy who
in fact.. could stand up against the nazis?!
even at age 16
or well at the very least
not join them?
cause isn't the pope supposed to be like
um
special..

i dunno but it seems like a sore point rubbed raw to me

if you feel otherwise
educate me

Friday, April 22

Out loud and ummm proud?

had something of an odd experience recently
i was "outed"
yes "outed"
i know, i know, haven't i done that for myself..rather loudly
yeah
but this was different
a magazine that wrote about me
called me an "OUT LESBIAN CHEF"

now,
first off,
i hate the word lesbian
always have
sounds like a skin disease
and second of all
i've never heard those two words together pertaining to me
were they to have said
fabulous chef who happens to be gay
it might have suited me a bit better

anyway
i digress
the point is
and maybe cause nobody asked me...

it made me feel weird
and i had to go and sit down and think about why
and process

after all
i am the cheerleader of urging people on
when they are in positions to be a role model
to come out loud and proud
and honey
ive been about as loud and proud as a girl can be

so why did it make me feel un-comfortable
seeing it in print

and why doesn't it bother me when its in print in my creative life?
like here on my site
but bugged me
when grouped with chef and pertaining to my professional life?

i had to think about it for a spell

what i came up with is this..

i like that people wonder what my story is
that they meet me and don't just know
i like that often i meet extremely homophobic people
and then after fully winning them over
they find out
and sometimes
this changes them
just a little

it even happened here on my site
i had readers who adored me
or so they said..
and then found out
and some stayed
and learned
and some didn't
their loss

but in my catering life
maybe its different
i have become mostly a wedding caterer
didn't start out that way
but 15 years later
thats what ive become famous for in nyc
who woulda guessed it?
and as such
i meet a lot of very very
hip brides and grooms
and very very VERY
conservative parents
i like that the bride and groom
love that im a groovy east village babe
and maybe get that i might be gay or maybe just dont give a rat's tuchas
but their parents just see the part of me
that's professional, cares about their kid
and wants to make it all wonderful
i'm sure most of the parents would be shocked
and maybe bothered by it
but once their kids wedding is over
and they are thrilled
they don't care whether i am a martian
a robot
or a woman
i made the wedding they wanted
and thats all that matters
but before the wedding?
uh uh honey
best to keep things quite simple
and all about the middle ground for some of these parents

anyway
all that aside
i had to wonder
was there any shame here?

was any of the reason that this bothered me so much
because i have internalized homphobia
self hate?!

lord knows
it would be normal enough

i don't think so...but who knows how much of that religious judaism
from my childhood might have crept in somewhere deep and gone to war with my...out loud and proud warrior woman

today...with the Christian right
really going to war against gay marriage
and our own president wanting to amend the constitution to deny it
its not a good time to feel shaky about pride
pride is the power that fuels a movement
always has been

i've got pride
i've got power
i've got the
accept as i am or bug off thing going too

so i guess
oh mostly
i guess
i was pissed that the magazine didn't ask if it was okay first
but then
who woulda guessed
myself included
that someone as out there as me
wanted to be asked?

now
about
changing that word
lesbian
any ideas?
theres gotta be something nicer

what do you think of
sapphirite..?

Wednesday, April 20

eat? the meat?

hey kids
i think i goofed
lost track of my own darn radio show
i think it was not this past monday
but next monday
sorry bout that
ive been in nutso land with three huge projects going on
at the same time
and well
im also hormonal
EXTREMELY so
and got
spring fever
and im blonde
so sue me

i shall venture out to provincetown this sunday
to tape 4 more shows
hurray!
and saturday
have an itty bitty little passover something
not sure if i have the energy for a sedar this year
maybe just a matzoh sandwich and a prayer
hows that?

on other news
i had a long talk with my good pal mel
about soy
and now im scared shitless about soy

why is it that everytime something that is supposed to be a great health
alternative
is crammed down our wazoos
it turns out to be more harmful than what its substituting
shit
i grew up on diet soda loaded with saccharin
and mega doses of margarine

now we know these things can cause cancer and artery blockage

woulda been a hell of a lot better off
having butter
and sugar

maybe the idea
is just to eat whatever the hell you want
but not to eat too much of anyone thing
and not to eat too much in general

its soooo confusing!

i was over-dosing on tofu
thinking this was a brilliant way to stay off
the meat

now im hearing soy
is not FDA approved
and may be quite harmful for my female
organs

and honey i love my female organs

oy friggen vey

so what's a girl to eat?

Saturday, April 16

love la matrix

read this on matrixland
a second ago
and it was so right on
and so much of how i have been feeling
that i just copied that whole darn
post
and im putting it here
la matrix is just fabu
if you ask me

__

"Isn't anyone old enough to remember?

In school, I remember them telling us that those who didn't study history were doomed to repeat it. This was in the middle of the Vietnam War, and I thought, we'll never forget this. This will never happen again.

Too bad there's no North Iraq to surrender to, so we can just airlift out. How did we forget?

Kids were suspended from school then for wearing anti-war shirts or black armbands in protest of the war. Now they're being suspended for wearing gay-positive T-shirts. And, OK, gay-negative T-shirts. The courts ruled in the 1960s that students had the right to freedom of expression, and they may have to rule the same thing again.

"Activist judges" overturned racist laws because majority votes and majority opinions would not. Now they're defending gay rights because few others do. That's what it's about: checks and balances, remember?

Funny how history and government were my least favorite subjects. I'm glad I had one ear open. "
___

on other news
monday at 12:45
on womr.org
listen to rossi on the radio
"Bite This" yes once again
12:45-1:00
hope you can hear it

toodles to yer noodles


Friday, April 15

drive by eating

watched the last part of "Super Size Me" last night
the documentary about the guy who ate Mcdonalds three meals a day for 30 days and gained 25 pounds, like tripled his cholesteral and basically made himself totally and completely ill..
it was pretty scary to see what 30 days of Micky Dee's could do to a person
and yeah, most folks don't eat fast food like Mcdonalds three meals a day
but a whole lotta people eat it every day..

fast food is a large part of whats wrong with this country
the growing trends towards obesity especially in kids
lack of energy
lack of enthousiasm
how can you muster up the energy to follow your dream when
you're feeling tired from a sugar crash down
following your Mac Attack..
the amount of sugar in this stuff was what shocked me the most
...
or maybe not
i remember the first time i had a big Mac
what got me was the burning on my tongue
and the falling crashing feeling afterwards
it was familiar
i knew it from a lifetime of
not handling sugar too well
its how i feel after i eat something super sweet
like a slice of cake
but from a burger?
who knew?

it has also seemed apparent to me
and maybe to you too
that fast food
like Mcdonalds
Burger King
and the like
is marketed like the new soul food
pushed heavily towards african americans
heavily towards the impoverished
its like the message is
if the going gets you down
get down on this burger
it will pick you up
and help you out
make you smile
make sports heroes sit next to you
make rap stars sing in the background..

but really its
making you sick and fat
and maybe
giving you diabetes

i've learned a lot about food in the last few years
some of my longer term readers may recall
that i embarked on a two year long homeopathic
regime to try and cure me of the allergies and asthma
i came down with after "911"
and it well mostly worked
got rid of maybe 70% of my problems
but what i learned was that
really
almost all the physical woes that befall us
can be cured with diet

i suffered from allergies
largely because i was over-dosed with air-born crapola
on ground zero
but i was unable to fight those allergies
because my immune system was in the toilet
and
my immune system was in the toilet
because of eating
on the run
typical high stress new yorker..
not only was i eating badly
but i was eating so fast
that i couldn't digest my food
a major double whammy

slowing down
eating healthy
using proper food combining
(no meat and starch together)
got my immune system up
and my allergies down


i look at the kids on my block a lot
most of them are from the projects down the street
a good half of the kids i see are overweight
some extremely so

there's one kid on my block
whos about 7 years old
and already a good 50 pounds overweight
he can't run
he stays away from the other kids
cause they make fun of him
the pain
the stigmas
that will carry thru for the rest of his life
are already deeply imbedded
i feel sorry for this kid
but honey
you don't want to step between him
and his Mcnuggets
thats just about the only time i see him smile
sad
really sad
love out of a bag of chicken mcnuggets

i don't know what the answer is
but i do know
its not between two sesame seed buns

Wednesday, April 13

this and that

Lordy things have been feeling heavy, heavy heavy of late..

And weird..

For me, it felt really and truly odd to see the body of the pope in full color being saluted by cell phones taking pictures of him…I don’t think I ever really got how far we’ve gone into the age of high tech and multi media until I saw the dead pope’s cell phone salute.

And speaking of funerals, Arianna (see linkie love list) brought up a rathing staggering point on the subject which was that our own dear and “folksy” president the baby bush has yet to go to a single funeral of any of the fallen soldiers killed in Iraq.

Honey…that’s just gross.

He can send them over there, but not stand at their coffins,. Not even a symbolic few…

Yech.


Arianna…thanks for that little tid bit…I shall now stop quoting and complimenting you lest anyone begin to think we are dating..

But oh, I am available on Saturday night…wink..

On other news..
I was impressed with the amazing array of comments on the preceding filibuster post..very exciting..over-all..

I invite you to do so again should you want to..but play nice..
Cause I just can’t stand anyone wasting my time and that of my readers
With insults and dis-respectful crap…

Does no one any good..
Just serves to make people want to do the opposite of whatever you are trying to talk them into..

See ya


Wednesday, April 6

Save the Senate

Okay..now I am not and will not pretend to be a major political brainiac.. like some of my readers…
I’m just a New York gal who sees things happening that she doesn’t feel comfortable with in her country, and, for that matter in her world..

So Bush lovers
How bout you chill on the nasty backlash for a bit and let me get my point across here…and if you want to comment
Take a deep breath and do so with some amount of respect..

So like I was saying, even a tough blonde chickita like myself can feel frightened at the prospect of any one political group taking on absolute power in this country…and honeys….that would mean democrats too..

Actually in today’s heated climate I think the only way to really know whether or not what you are ranting about is just is to put the shoe (or boot or pump..or umm sneaker) on the other foot…

I think the second any political power becomes THE political party…we lose what America is all about and start rapidly heading towards something that no longer feels like a democracy.

With this in mind…I feel scared out of my wazoo about what is going on in the Senate right now.

Republicans, not just satisfied with being a majority are trying to erode one of the most important powers left to the minority by silencing them on the floor, but stopping the filibuster, so they can push thru their own judicial nominees.

Once the pesky democrats are shut up, Bush’s nominees will have clear sailing to take on their lifetime posts on the bench.

By losing the filibuster, we as Americans lose the knowledge that the minority has a voice too.


The “nuclear option” or as Bush would say “NUCULAR” option proposed by Senator Frist would target the Senate Filibuster. This is an essential tool that allows a minority party to prevent a narrow majority from truly abusing its “might makes right” power.

Frist only needs 50 senate votes plus the tie-breaker from Cheney and he’s on his way to putting an end to a 200 year old tradition that was one of the great things about the Senate.

Basically in order to stop this, it’s not democrats in the senate that need to be targeted but at least six courageous Republicans; Republicans willing to stand against their own party, to risk possible career suicide to do what’s right.

Here’s hoping…there are at least 6 Republican senators who remember what it felt like to be a moderate Republican, surrounded by like-minded peers.

Here’s hoping there are at least 6 Republican senators…who love their country more then their party.

Here's hoping...


Sunday, April 3

Farewell to the Pope

I will not pretend to understand how it might feel to be a religious Catholic today…mourning the loss of Pope John Paul 11.

I did have something of an experience that may have given me some understanding when I lived amongst the Lubavitch Chasids and felt their adoration for their much beloved Rebbe; Rebbe Shneerson. Most of the Chasids I met, felt the Rebbe’s voice was an extension of the lord, that when he spoke he was being divinely inspired. When the Rebbe passed away, an entire slice of Judaism fell into complete despair, many are there still.

So yes, I have seen something like this before, but as a person who has never followed any one religious leader, I can only imagine what this loss might feel like.

I do feel sadness for the sadness of so many millions of people around the world right now.

It was certainly not a good time to lose someone who offered inspiration.

What I know about the pope was that he was a very different pope from the ones of the past, more of a walk amongst the people, not sit in his private chambers and await visitors kind of pope.

He was also known to reach out to Jews and to Muslims and to non Catholic Christians and I credit him for this effort, for his constant efforts to reach across the many lines drawn by culture and by religion.

He is also credited widely with aiding the collapse of communism and being a voice against war, both of which are legacies anyone would be proud of.

But for so many members of the gay community around the world he was anything but a friend. He seemed at times, to go out of his way to condemn homosexuality, calling gay marriage an integral part of “a new ideology of evil” plaguing our world today.

These views seemed out-dated and cruel especially in the midge of the fight for gay marriage in America.

To all the people around the world who were and are HIV positive or who fought to stop the spread of HIV, his refusal to approve the use of condoms seemed held back in the ice age and more so, a complete denial of the countless lives that might be spared by the use of condoms and all the ones that had been lost to AIDS.

How could a man who fought against war and the death penalty sentence so many to death by denying them condoms?

But he held to his religious commitments citing condoms as birth control and calling birth control immoral.

This is simply not based in today’s world; a world in which AIDS is decimating entire countries.

As a feminist I could not condone the popes refusal to see women as equal in terms of the service they were allowed to perform in church and yes, I do know, that few religions allow for this kind of equality, religious Judaism amongst them.

That’s the reason why I don’t go to an orthodox synagogue and why my brother and I argue.

What I hope is that the many good things this pope has done will be remembered and cherished, his fight for humanitarian issues will be upheld and his efforts to reach out to other religions will be continued ever after.

I hope too, that the new pope will look at the world today and try to bring the Vatican into this brave new frightening world, by understanding that condoms are not just birth control but are often the only barrier stopping a rampant and murderous disease.

I do not expect the new pope to condone or embrace homosexuality, I know full well that would be asking too much but I do hope he will be at least a little more tolerant.

I hope to that the new pope might find a way to elevate a woman’s position in the church, to understand that millions of women around the world might feel closer to the church if they were allowed to take a more active role in its services.

But today, today…is a time for mourning.

And even here, as far removed from the Vatican as a person can be…I do feel the sadness that so many are engulfed by.

Today, I say I am sorry for your loss.